General Talk

Sorry to hear that wiwi. Hope it'll turn out better for you.

 

It won't, for a while, I guess. Job is one thing but the other thing is just too much to handle. And I can't even bear to hate her or anything. Damn me.

 

I understand the feeling though.
She cheated on me but I didn't want to believe. Even after some revealation, I still dated her for a while before my heart couldn't take it anymore that I bade her farewell.
Don't know if you could take up another affair but I've not been able to, for at least 6 years until now.

 

I thought it's because you're gay, but I disgress. My mind tells me that it's better to let her go but my heart tells me not to. I'm officially screwed.

 

Hope I will never find myself in you guys' situations, just thinking about it makes me depressed enough already.
Yeah and I don't know what I'm gonna do if it ever occur. Right now it's easy to say I will end everything, but if the time comes I might be tempted to reason with myself. But I do think you should end it swiftly, once and for all.

How long have you been together though? The longer it was the harder this is I guess.

 

Just almost 3 years, I guess, but she always claimed that it's 2 years only. Pretty weird by itself. You won't want to even see me in this situation, let alone in my shoes, Fat Cat. It's the most pathetic state a man can ever be.

 

Hmm I have this weird habit of (sometimes) imagining myself in some emotionally fucked up situations to see how I would hold up, or to feel the pain itself. Guess it's just me.

 

My habbit is just the same as yours so we're weird.

Even though I was prepared for the fact that some days she would betray me, the impact was just too much it twisted my personality. I was still young back then but I was rather serious and didn't consider love affairs something to toy with, like other ordinary kids. So I could tell it's not period of time that define how you will suffer, but the magnitude of joyment and seriousness that would matter.
Later she did beg me to begin our relationship anew but I merely regard an insect's request meaningless.

 

^ Is that imagination masochism?























Just Kidding!!! I also have that weird habit too.
@wiwi:
Sr to hear that, dude. Hope u can get through this :)

 

Poor wiwi. Is this your first love? If so, it's gonna be tougher. In the mean time, try to find a thing to focus on finding a new job. I hope you can get through this.

 

The crucial question is why she cheated? ED? Did you commit adultery?

 

If you just wanted to say something, it's better not to say anything at all...
He wouldn't be here crying and instead was happying all over his break-up if he commited adultery. Could you not think?

 

It's far from my 1st love or my 1st time being dumped but it's the most serious affair which I have ever spent every single ounce of my effort on. I was never that serious so unsurprisingly, this is what I get.

For your question, Charlie, the reason is probably because I'm the most sucky failure of a bf. I can't make her as happy as the other guy can. It's simple as that. The fact that it is so reasonable makes me even more painful.

 

oh, I have nothing to say but "Cheer up, wiwi." Everything will be okay. (just how long it will take to be normal again).

 

It's funny how u and my bro share the same fate. Dude was dating the girl for almost 3 years then suddenly she cheated on his ass, even with those promises they made, memories they had and what not; he has spent several recent months living in denial.

I just don't get it. Really. If your or his partner was not happy and sensed that the relationship was going nowhere, at least they should have the courtesy to break up with you before treading on further with the other guys. Cheating is just like a slap to the face and saying: "Hey, f.uck your sorry ass made me miserable as f.uck." DO NOT COMPREHEND.

And the worst part is my bro still keeps in touch with that girl as a friend, which shows that he still clings to that dead relationship (WTF???).

I know the feeling is dreadful overall; been there done that. However, the fact that she cheated on you indicates the plain truth: she's not worth it man. Just consider it's a wild goose chase and move on. It's better that way.

 

Hmm this time I actually agree with Charlie Scene. You being a failure of a bf or not doesn't justify her cheating on you. Don't blame yourself.

 

Every functional braincell would tell me the same. But brain won't work in this case, mind you. And Charlie, your brother probably feels the same as me if he still tries to cling to her. You can't just accept that your beloved is a b*tch and think that the problem mostly lies with you. Some other more aggressive guys may disagree and attempt to stab both the girl and the other guy, yes.

Even now, I'm looking for a ray of hope that she just needs some fresh air and will eventually return to the warm old happy home with me. Charlie's bro and I are that desperate creatures.

 

Two more questions: Do you still love her dearly? Can you live with the fact that she has been unfaithful to you?

 

Me too. You are not the only one. I believe it is mental masochism. According to my teacher, it is more common in girls though.
in my experience, if you manage to shred some tears, it can be a very good way to relieve stress

 

I think yes to both. But I won't tolerate any more lies, which is sadly what is she trying to tell me.